Jennifer Goldstein

pTickle / 04.16.08 / 2 responses / Dating

Mr. Sandman

I know that there were crushes before her, but Jennifer Goldstein from my first grade class is the first one that I can remember having. She was a blonde and I am pretty sure she wasn’t even the cutest girl in the class at the time. Seeing her a couple years later confirmed that I caught her in her prime already. Knowing how much I cherish the looks of a woman I had to think why this one was my crush in the class above all others and I remember one particular moment.

Family Ties the TV show was big back then and there was an episode where the girls sang Mr. Sandman. The next day at school Jennifer and a couple of her friends sang Mr. Sandman to me and after that I was hooked. I’m not sure if I had feelings for her before then, but at that moment she had dibs on my heart for the rest of the year. If any girl wanted a chance at me they had to top Jennifer and at age 6 that didn’t seem likely.

Jennifer had established a connection with me that went beyond the physical and that is how she won. That is why many women win today when they don’t have physical attractiveness on their side and why so many lose when they do have it. As shallow as we are, the male species does place a certain value on a woman that can make a connection with us. Why do you think men fall in love with co-workers when they know they shouldn’t or why your biggest crushes seemed to have happened in high school?

When you are around someone daily you get to know them without the implications that are introduced at a bar or a club. Sure you might think they are hot, but because you know you shouldn’t be doing anything with them you simply get to know them and a connection builds and that is when the trouble really begins.

That is why one night stands generally don’t work with us even though women continually think that the way to our hearts is in between the sheets.

Assertive Often Wins

Another lesson that can be taken from Jennifer was the fact that she was assertive with her feelings. There were no games, she let it be known that she liked me in her own way. Women do that today and they can come off as sluts or they think they need to play hard to get to the point where they don’t seem interested at all. It’s a tough situation no matter how you look at it simply because there is so much to lose. If you really like a man, being rejected by him can hurt more than anything. However, not knowing if something is possible between you two is even worse.

Now to my fellas out there we know this applies triple to us. As men we are expected to make the first move and often times this move results in a crash and burn, which causes many of us to be reluctant in the future. We get too reluctant we piss the ladies off and chase them away. It almost seems like a lose-lose situation unless you actually win the lady over. What are we to do?

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Why do they always want to date? » pTickle / 10.14.08

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Synn / 10.15.08

Why do you think men fall in love with co-workers when they know they shouldn’t or why your biggest crushes seemed to have happened in high school?

Some risks are the right thing(s) to do.

When you are around someone daily you get to know them without the implications that are introduced at a bar or a club. Sure you might think they are hot, but because you know you shouldn’t be doing anything with them you simply get to know them and a connection builds and that is when the trouble really begins.

Maybe two co-workers build a connection because both have the traits that compliment possible future plans. If so much time is spent on shouldn’t how does one recognize what should be?